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6 Weeks With a Covert Narcissist
Continued from 4 Types, 16 Characteristics, and 20 Traits of Narcissists
Picking up where I left off, I invited my homeless narcissist (“N”) to cohabitate with me. While he insisted he was an empath, I began to research the differences between empaths and narcissists. The definition of empath did not seem to resonate at the time. But in reality I didn’t much care, as I was being love-bombed and didn’t even know it! (Editor’s note: Love-Bombing was unintentionally left out of the first article of narcissistic traits. For those who are as naive as me, it means to shower one with excessive adoration and attention in order to gain control or significantly influence their behavior.) Physically, his dark skin, trim and toned body, washboard abs (and LOTS of tattoos) fit perfectly with this dad-bod. Sex was very comfortable for both of us.
After picking up his belongings from three different places he’d been staying, we began to settle as roommates. He found space for his things, despite the fact it crowded my things, and I’m a tad OCD. I knew N would not be contributing to the rent, but his mere presence thrilled me. He had no mobility, but he did have a SNAP card from Arizona (his previous residence) that worked in New Mexico, and he covered groceries to the extent that the program allowed.
