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Does My Soulmate Live In Albuquerque?
Can you find a soulmate anywhere you go?
There was a time when my ex-wife suggested there might be something wrong with me and that I should see a psychotherapist.
Boy, was that the pot calling the kettle black.
I mean, yeah, in the end, there was something wrong with me — her! She had often questioned my sexual orientation throughout the course of the marriage, and I always claimed to be straight. After all, we had two children together, and they were definitely ours. However, things aren’t always as they seem. (And just because someone is married and has two children doesn’t mean one is not gay.)
In my first session with the therapist, the only memorable but wrong advice she gave me was this: “There are only about 20 people in the world who can be your soulmate.”
“WHAT?!” I thought. “I’m on a hunt for 1 of 20 people among more than five billion?”
This idea has tormented me for years. Are there really only 20?
If you have one, do you feel as if your current spouse/partner is your soulmate?
A couple of sessions later, she asked if I felt I was gay, and I said no. This is not how or where I am going to come out.
