Well...I didn't exactly have much say in how my son's ashes were handled. Most of that planning went to my daughter, and his very best friend in life. My son was a HUGE Britney Spears fan. He had the moves down of every song she recorded, and became a mini Instagram sensation. Britney has a hit song called "Piece of Me," and she also has a perfume. So my son's friend bought 30 bottles of the perfume, dumped them out, and filled them with "A Piece of Alex," which then went to 30 of his closest people. I received my own small urn and the remainder of the ashes. There are a lot! The remainder of the ashes were left in a very secret place in my home. They are now gone. Nobody knew where they were. And who would want a bottle of ashes?